Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Let the wating begin!

It’s been 5 months since I wrote my first blog and so much has happened since then.  We have officially started the process of adopting our baby boy from China.  The first of January this year we turned in our application with Lutheran Social Services and February 1st we began the process of our Home Study.  A process that we were told would take 3-4 months to complete only took us a month and a half.  WOW, we were off to a great start!!! I have Kyle to thank for that.  He has been amazing at tackling the crazy amount of paperwork and phone calls.  I joke and tell him that if I were married to someone like myself (I have no organizational skills and I am a major procrastinator) we would have not gotten past the application process.  When I tell you that there is A LOT of paperwork it is an understatement!!!! We’ve had numerous amounts of doctor’s visits, blood work and our first round of fingerprints (yes, I said 1st round of fingerprints).  Oh, and now I can say I actually know my Body Mass Index, whatever that means!  After we completed our Home Study, our Case Worker from LSSI sent it to Lifeline (our adoption agency) to review.  It passed with flying colors and this last Friday, April 13th it was officially sent to the State of Illinois for approval.  SO NOW WE WAIT!!!   

We are not far into this process but I can tell you it’s already been a roller coaster of emotions.  Since we made the decision to surrender to the calling to adopt, God has started a change in me and my family.  He has shown me that things I once thought were important are not so important anymore.  We have had to watch what we spend and be more aware of where our money is going cause let’s face it this adoption is not cheap.  From the beginning I’ve had a hard time with the financial part of this process.  It’s hard to ask God to provide for us in this manner when we have not always done what He would have us to do with what He gave us in the first place.  Yes, we are fortunate that we both have great jobs and make a comfortable living but unfortunately we’ve made some bad decisions and racked up some credit card debt. Yuck, there I’ve said it WE HAVE DEBT (whew, kinda freeing to get it out there).  So, not only are we trying to save for this adoption but we are busting our butts to pay off this debt and use what God has given us in  a way that is pleasing to Him and not us.  I’ve figured out that God does not care how cute I look in my $100 blingy jeans, nor does anyone else for that matter.  So Dillard’s is now my enemy and I refuse to  buy anymore ridiculously expensive jeans.  But hey, I’m still gonna wear the ones I have because I mean seriously what good would it do to let all that money go to waste??? Right??? (Did I mention how cute I looked in them!) He also doesn’t care what kind of cars we drive or house we live in.  He’s been so good to us and we are doing our best to use what He has given us to glorify Him.  We have faith that He is going to provide the money for this adoption.  To us we feel like we are asking a lot but my Father owns a million mansions and to Him this is so small. 

He is also giving me a heart for service.  He has opened my eyes to so many needs around me.  I’ve been reading some pretty amazing books about how I can better serve my family, my church and my community.  I’m thankful that God is using this adoption to show me that it’s not all about me.  People are suffering all around us.  I may not live in an area that has homeless people on every corner or prostitutes walking the streets but there are people that need Jesus just as much and they are out there.  They are at Target, they are at my kid’s school and they are even sitting in the pews at my church.  God is showing me that I can make a difference in those places and I’m so excited to be working on a project that I know God is going to bless. 

My prayer through all of this has been that God might use us to help other families answer the call to adopt.  We are as ordinary a family as they come and if God can use us I know He can use other families just like us.  I recently ran across this information in a book I read:

             “143 million orphaned children and the 11 million who starve to death or die from preventable diseases and the 8.5 million who work as child slaves, prostitutes, or under horrific conditions and the 2.3 million who live with HIV add up to 164.8 million needy children.  And though at first glance that looks like a big number, 2.1 billion people on this earth proclaim to be Christians.  The truth is that if only 8% of the Christians would care for one more child, there would not be any statistics left.”  Katie Davis, Kisses from Katie

 Wow, pretty amazing, huh! If that doesn’t make your stomach hurt, I don’t know what will.

 We recently found out that some good friends of ours are adopting a little girl from China.  We are so excited to have someone to share this journey with.  I know that God put us on this path together for a reason and I can’t wait to see what He has in store for our two families.  It’s things like this that I know only God can orchestrate so thank you Mark, Heather, Mason, Marlee and Maksim Mayhew for joining us on this adventure 


So like I said earlier all we can do now is wait for our Home Study to be approved and continue to work on our Dossier.  Please continue to pray for our family, I can tell you the waiting is not easy!  It’s still hard to say when exactly we will be traveling to China to get our little one but according to our case worker Logan it should be around June of next year.  I just keep trusting that it is all in God’s timing and He will work it all out for us.  He is so faithful!! Hopefully it won’t be long until I’m blogging again to let you all know that the State of Illinois has approved our Home Study.